Joi De Vivre
I must admit, there have been many days in the past year when I resented work. Life often seems like a hamster wheel - the harder you run, the more tired you get, but you never get ahead. Fighting with insurance companies, dealing with difficult patients, worrying in the face of disease, sadness, death, I am both physically and emotionally drained at times. The buzz of my alarm in the morning is often a disheartening sound.
It’s not that I don’t love what I do. I feel very privileged to be able to make a real difference in people’s lives - that is what keeps me coming back for more. Despite all of the battles, I do make a good income and get to use my talents in doing so. I really couldn’t see myself doing much else. But there are times when it takes a lot to pull up the emotional strength to face another full schedule. I am sure this is a feeling echoed throughout the medical profession.
There is someone in our office, however, who sees life in a totally different manner. She comes at each day with joy and enthusiasm. It isn’t an artificial smile that she wears because she feels she must; it is an honest joy to be where she is, doing what she does. Her job is to stock our exam rooms with the things we use during the normal course of a day, as well as to keep the kitchen and conference rooms clean. This is the best job she has ever had.
Last year I was approached by one of my longstanding patients to see if we would be interested in participating in a program to employ the mentally disabled. She had worked with this program for some time and felt that our office environment would be well-suited for this type of thing. Our initial reluctance was overcome by the fact that there would be a supervisor for the disabled person in the office to help them train and answer any questions that come up. We would be only responsible for part of the salary and would be able to address any problems to the supervisor. It seemed like the kind of thing we should be doing, and I was always frustrated that we ran out of ear tips and tongue depressors (it was the last thing on the list for our busy nurses), so we agreed to join the program.
It turned out that this patient had her daughter in mind as the one who would work in our office. Her daughter (who I will call Alice) had a brain tumor when she was seven, requiring high-dose chemotherapy and radiation. It left her with a non-functioning pituitary gland and a significant mental handicap. She is now in her upper 20’s and still reads and functions mentally at a 3rd grade level. She wears a cap to cover her hairloss and scars, and has the typical appearance of someone who has been on steroid replacement for many years.
For her the job proved to be a challenge. Keeping track of all that needed to be done in each room, and finding time to stock the rooms while they were not being used proved to be difficult at times. We had to take away the job of keeping the printers filled with paper because she would over-fill them at times, causing them to jam up. Sometimes the drawers with the patient gowns were so over-filled that they were difficult to close. Yet she stuck with it, and with the kind guidance of her supervisor, she has now gotten very adept at sneaking in between patients or at lunch to stock the rooms.
Her mother is ecstatic. Alice is the happiest she has ever been, working at our office. She feels like she is needed and important, and looks forward to going to work each day. We notice when she has been gone - the nurses and doctors are all used to having well-stocked rooms, so when they are not stocked, we know she has been gone. I never have to look for ear tips when she is here. The kitchen is always clean at the end of the day, and the refrigerator is well organized.
But perhaps the best part of having Alice around is the air of joy she brings to the office. She is always wearing a smile under her pink cap. Our entire office staff enjoys having her here.
After lunch, it is my practice to go to the kitchen and make my afternoon pot of coffee. Alice is always there in the kitchen cleaning up after our lunch. I will often tease her, “Alice, how come you are just hanging out here in the kitchen? Did you drink my coffee?”
She gets a big smile and responds, “Dr. Lamberts, you know I don’t drink coffee! You’re teasing me, aren’t you?”
“I’m teasing you, Alice. I just wish you wouldn’t always drink all of the coffee!”
“I just can’t help myself, Dr. Lamberts. I just drink all your coffee.” She laughs back at me.
This afternoon ritual is a ray of sunshine in my day. I have a little sister to playfully tease, someone who carries no shard of anger or bitterness. She loves what she does and brings to it a determination to do her best and a big smile while she does it.
It says in the book of Matthew: Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the Earth. Alice is one of the meek. She does not have ambition to save lives, make lots of money, or rescue healthcare. She does not fret much about the future or complain about the present. She just wears her cap, does her job, and smiles.
Truthfully, it would be just fine with me if she inherited the Earth.
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There are numerous resources for employers to participate in supported employment of the disabled. I highly recommend these programs to all employers.
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July 12th, 2007 at 8:00 am
Wow, what a touching story (I’m misty eyed). Mat 11:25-30 also comes to mind - it includes the importance of humility, and the paradoxical rest (in the midst of hard work) that comes for those who serve God with a joyful, child-like spirit. Alice is a reminder to us all about what’s really important.
July 12th, 2007 at 8:08 am
What a wonderful story! I’m tearing up a bit…
July 12th, 2007 at 1:13 pm
What a great thing to do! You all have given her a place in life to fit in and contribute. This was a nice read Dr. Rob.
July 13th, 2007 at 1:09 pm
I always tend to read with a critical/analytical eye, so few posts actually move me deep down. This one did in several ways, and that’s not an easy thing to do. Such small things to us can mean the world to others, and vice versa. Bravo.
July 13th, 2007 at 9:21 pm
hmmm as in hmmm !!!.. do you really, really, really, know she doesn’t fret; that she has no ambition ? You cap the concept in YOUR lofty goals of health care and all that provide, yet she may have hers that are just as lofty !!
You folks are doing good… but have you gone beyond prejudice?
Your org. is very good in what you folks are trying to do - yet the last para and sentence shows our still ingrained prejudice to “mental issues”;you accommodated, spirit was there, but the day to day belief is not. She is not one of the “meek” .. she is one of us !!
This was a really bad blog & I am totally steamed !!
July 13th, 2007 at 11:20 pm
No, I actually do think that her goals and ambitions are every bit as important and noble as any I have had - probably much more. You did not read my true meaning in that paragraph. By being “meek” I mean that she has far fewer vanities than I do and far fewer pointless worries. That is why I started the entire piece out by talking about my own fretting. I don’t get a good feeling because we help her. I get a good feeling because she sees what is really important in life and is a reminder of that amidst the things that my vain mind thinks are important. One of the most important lessons I have learned is that often the “least” are often the greatest.
July 14th, 2007 at 4:15 am
My dad worked for many years as a teacher in a vocational school for mentally and physically diabled. He’d teach them basic skills and then find jobs to place them in. It was then his job to handle problems and follow up with the students and employers. He has many great kids who were “rejected” by mainstream society that thrived in these conditions. It was a great job. Frustrating, but very rewarding.
Alice sounds like pure joy!
July 15th, 2007 at 12:34 am
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July 15th, 2007 at 6:14 am
Great post Rob.
July 18th, 2007 at 9:26 am
I’ll have a little bit of a better attitude when I go to work today, thanks to Alice!
Great story!